That’s my view, anyway.
Growing up and making my way in the world as quiet, self-contained child, I often came up against aspects of myself that seemed to jar with the way other people operated. Like many quiet folk, I sometimes felt inadequate around more articulate, extrovert people whose very nature was held up as ‘the way to be’.
Up to half of the population tends towards quietness. Neither quietness nor extroversion is abnormal. In Western cultures, being extrovert is considered more desirable, and quiet folk are often encouraged to ‘be more outgoing’. So it’s worth noting that many Eastern cultures value thoughtful, gentle souls.
Quiet folk aren’t and shouldn’t try to be extroverts. We’re fine as we are, and the world needs both perspectives. There’s nothing to fix. When we accept that quietness is OK too, we can let go of taking ourselves too seriously and just be who we are.
Noise masks insight
I’m coming to appreciate that we all need quietness to some degree. We quiet folk need down time to recharge our batteries. We need thinking space before we respond to complex questions and demands, and we tend to dislike noisy parties, open plan offices and small talk. Extroverts thrive in the very situations that drain quieter souls.
But we all come up against personal obstacles, setbacks, heartache and mortality. Quiet reflection is a valuable resource as we navigate through these times.
In what seems like an increasingly war-torn world, peace thrives under quiet appreciation, gratitude and respect, not in the crash of conflict.
I dream of a world
in which quietness is appreciated and valued just as much as extroversion. For me that means getting some clarity about what quietness really is (not shyness or social awkwardness), and creating space for quiet folk to thrive. It also means living quietness day-to-day day so that it becomes easy and natural to be around.
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