That’s my view, anyway.
Like many quiet folk, I sometimes used to feel inadequate around more articulate, extrovert people, especially if they were held up as ‘the way to be’. If you’re quiet, you may sometimes feel at odds with the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Up to half of us tend towards quietness. Neither quietness nor extroversion is abnormal. In Western cultures, being extrovert is considered more desirable, and quiet folk are often encouraged to ‘be more outgoing’. So it’s worth noting that many Eastern cultures value thoughtful, gentle souls.
Quiet folk are fine as we are, and the world needs our gifts. There’s nothing to fix. When we accept that quietness is OK too, we can let go of taking ourselves too seriously and just be who we are.
If you feel OK in your skin, you’ll feel OK in the world too, even on a bad day. And when you’re willing to claim what you need to be at your best, you’ll find new wells of potential to share.
Why is quietness so important?
I’m coming to appreciate that we all need quietness to some degree. We quiet folk need down time to recharge our batteries. We need thinking space before we respond to complex questions and demands, and we tend function less well at noisy parties, in open plan offices and with small talk. This doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with us. It’s simply that our brains are wired differently. Extroverts thrive in the very situations that drain us.
And we all come up against personal obstacles, setbacks, heartache and mortality. Quiet reflection is a valuable resource as we navigate through these times.
In what seems like an increasingly war-torn world, peace thrives under quiet appreciation, gratitude and respect, not in the crash of conflict.
I dream of a world
in which quietness is appreciated and valued just as much as extroversion. For me that means getting some clarity about what quietness really is (not shyness or social awkwardness), and creating space for quiet folk to thrive. It also means living quietness day-to-day day so that it becomes easy and natural to be around.
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